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January 25, 2002
A number of years ago,
one of the well-known women’s magazines surveyed divorced women. One
question asked was, “Why did you get a divorce?” The answers were--he
was lazy, would not work, an alcoholic, on drugs, cheated, was abusive
(emotional, physical, sexual, mental, verbal), and many other
reasons. The next question was “Did you know that he had this problem
before you married him?” The answer for a very large percentage of
the divorced women was, “Yes.” The next question was, “Why did you
marry him knowing that there was a problem?” The answer was, “I
thought that if I gave him my love and if he loved me enough, he would
change.”
My advice to my women
readers is that you should not marry a man that you know has a
problem. If you really love him, confront him now. Make a demand that
if he wants you he must go to counseling and correct the problem
first. If he will not solve the problem first, walk away and do not
turn around. Be careful that if he gets counseling and changes, you
wait at least six months to one year after counseling is complete to
see that he does not slip back into his previous pattern. Do this
procedure before you marry him, and you will lower the odds of getting
a divorce afterwards. If my men readers see themselves in the
following list beware. It very well could be that you couldn’t keep a
relationship because you do fit these areas, or you’re about to lose
the one who loves you because you refuse to see yourself.
SOME
WARNING SIGNALS:
Watch how he acts with
others. (If he is not nice, chances are he will treat you the same.)
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Does he drink? How much? |
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Does he take drugs? |
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Do you feel stifled? |
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Is he abusive? |
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Does he hurt animals? |
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What kind of relationship does he have with his
mother, father, brothers, sisters, kids, etc. |
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Does he respect the law? |
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Does he cheat? |
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Do little things he is doing bother you? |
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Does he lie? |
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Does he steal? |
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Is he short tempered? |
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Does he drive like a maniac? |
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Do your friends tell you he is no good for
you?
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Does he yell at or curse other drivers? |
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Does he feel nothing is ever his fault? |
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Can he admit when he is wrong or makes a mistake? |
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Will he say he is sorry? |
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Would you rather stay home than see him? |
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Reprinted with permission of the author
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Dear Wayne,
Thanks again for sharing your wisdom. Allow me
to take this opportunity to let you know how much I enjoy Men
Don't Listen and your straightforward approach - which is why I am
delighted to print your contributions.
By the way, I'm sure you wouldn't disagree that
some men can ask themselves the same questions about the difficult
woman in their life!
Readers, Wayne invites you to email him directly
above or to post to the attached board; he replies! For the
record, I don't get royalties or other payment for book sales
resulting from these pages. I just like his stuff.
Happy posting! Doc |
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