| 12/13/99
Hi Dr. Irene,
A few months ago I wrote to you my story, "Success I left two weeks ago". I wanted to
give you an update of how I am doing. As I told you my mother had a mild
stroke so I was going to go visit her in Japan, well I decided to stay.
I am learning to respect who I am and to love me. I am learning to sit
with my emotions and feel them. To know its ok to have feelings - after
being told for so long it's not ok to feel. I am also learning what is
acceptable to me and what is not, learning if someone says something to me
that I feel is out of line, then I can choose to say something or not. I
am learning that everyone has their own opinions and ideas as well as I do
and whether or not they or I agree or disagree it is OK.
I am the happiest I believe I have ever been. To finally see who I am and
know that I can do anything I want. It has been an up and down hill, but
with each day I am becoming stronger. I have such a different outlook on
life and on people in general. Everyday seems and feels like a new
adventure.
The people in this country are wonderful, and in the same town is a Marine
base with a community of wonderful people. Everyone I have met has gone
out of his or her way to make me feel as if I have lived here my whole
life. I have also met a wonderful man who has become a very dear friend
who is helping me learn to trust again. What a strange concept to be
encouraged by a man to say what ever is on my mind and not be
judged and told I was stupid for saying such a thing.
There still are times when I hear someone yell or someone arguing and I
start to shake, but I know that in time that will pass too. Yes. Sometimes I find myself apologizing too much,
but again that is getting better. Yes. It's
funny how much more aware I am of my behavior and habits. Yes! I am not sure if
I ever want to open my heart up to anyone again, for the fear of being
hurt. You will, when you are ready. Take your time.
But maybe it is too soon to say, but what ever is in store for me I am
truly looking forward to it. I have also learned that no one can take
better care of me than myself. You bet! -Dora
Dear Dora,
Thank you for
sending in your update. It is great to read a success story! You inspire
many. My warmest regards, Dr. Irene |
