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Owning Your Stuff

Owning Your Stuff

by Dr. Irene

"A 'No' uttered from deepest conviction is better and
greater than a 'Yes' merely uttered to please, or what
is worse, to avoid trouble." - Mahatma Gandhi

My husband made me do this page.

He tied me to the computer and would not let up for air until I finished. Well, not quite.

One night, he said to me, "I hate jargon. What does it mean that you "own" your stuff. So what! You admit that you do (something) I don't like. Does that give you permission to continue doing it?" Actually...yes, though I never needed permission!

Here is an explanation for the psychologically unsophisticated, a population to which my husband (thankfully) belongs:

"Owning your stuff," "taking responsibility" both mean the same thing: that you are fully aware that whatever behavior you engage in is a choice you have actively made. Nobody makes you do anything. The consequences of your actions are yours alone. Nobody has to like or dislike your choices. You are the author of your life. You need no approval or permission. (Just remember, you have to live with the consequences!)