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11/7 Interactive Board: Is This Abusive?

12/29 Interactive Board: There Goes the Wife...

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B1: Submit
Date: 11/16/1999


Very touching Joe. I just want to say hang in there and stop looking so hard. My current boyfriend and I have been so happy for over a year now and I see if lasting the long term. Before we found each other we both went through a string of rather abusive and uncaring relationships, yet neither of us felt we deserved better and were scared of being alone for the rest of our lives. When I met him, I had decided to stop looking all together and I was just expecting to gain a new friend in him. It grew far beyond that in time and I love him dearly and he has helped my esteem so much over the past year. I doubt I would've gotten through my senior year in high school or this far into my freshman year in college without his help. I can't go home with my problems because my mom is incredibly verbally abusive and also goes out of her way to make me feel bad. The last two times I went home she treated me so bad even though for once I made sure not to start anything. Even my dad was disgusted with how far she was going and had to stop her a few times. So my boyfriend has become my closest dearest friend to tell my problems and to share my happy times. Maybe you should look for someone that you can do that with. I wish you the best of luck in the future. Keep the Faith, Peggy

B1: Submit
Date: 11/12/1999


I know about PTSD and abuse......and how it can look like YOU are the crazy one....congrats on not accepting it....on giving it back .....

B1: Submit
Date: 02/11/2000


i am so sorry joe. i know that you are hurting but dont ever give up i care about you.

B1: Submit
Date: 02/06/2000



B1: Submit
Date: 02/04/2000


Dear Joe, at this time Im facing the pretty much same thing you were except for pretty much 90's style.... My father is smaller then me but yet has a power over me I cant seem to break.. he verbally beats me.. and has driven me to drug usage.. I know its bad! and now he comes down here and its as though he gets off at screaming at me and hitting me (sometimes) and my mother just sits back and does nothing... what do you think I should do??? please help.... I don't know what to do!!!

B1: Submit
Date: 02/03/2000


I married a man exactly like Joe. Had all the concomitant child abuse. I would like to encourage Joe to continue his work in healing and saving himself. My ex-husband did not have the courage. I made the only choice possible after a year of serious binging on drugs and basically one violent episode. I retained a court order prayerfully hoping that my husband at the time would seek counseling. For 8 months he just continued in his drug activities. I was very much afraid of this behavior for which I had never experienced and divorced my husband whom I loved then and still love now after two years of separation and one year divorced. I would be most happy to communicate with you via email. My email address is

B1: Submit
Date: 02/26/2000


I know what it's like to be verbally abused as a child. I'm 13 and right now I'm trying to get out of a verbally abusive situation.

B1: Submit
Date: 01/21/2001


Joe, I am rooting for you. Please do your best to study everyday and don't let your family hold you back from achieving your goals. Please don't give up!!! You have so much strength for standing up and seeking help for yourself!!!


B1: Submit
Date: 11/09/2000


Hello Joe:

Your story touched me and I can relate because of my similar background. I too have had a lot of therapy. I am working on staying away from abusive relationships. It is hard. I have had relapses in that I did attract and get into a relationship with someone who had a temper. Fortunately I was able to leave very soon after the abuse started thanks to my therapy. I look forward to the day I no longer attract those types as you do. I wish you well and hope to hear of your progress on this website. Sandra