Subj: advice needed
Date: 3/21/99
From: Joyce
To: drireneDr. Irene,
I am a newlywed, three months now. I recently asked my husband to leave the house because
his every three day volcanic emotional explosions of anger, name calling and delusional
lies so distracted and hurt me. I have as my first priority a daughter to raise (she's
seven) and a business to run. He has known this from the very beginning of our
relationship. Now he has your articles on verbal abuse and sees himself clearly and is
willing to counsel. My question is: How long is the process? Is it truly possible for
deliverance of this behavior? Is it wise for me to even think of staying married to him
given my life and daughter's life are at stake?
Joyce
Dear Joyce,
I am sorry to hear your new marriage is starting off badly. I am not sure how to respond
to you since I don't have nearly enough information.
You imply that your life and your daughter's life are "at stake". Are you in
physical danger? If that is the case, or you feel threatened, you need to act immediately
to protect yourself and your child! If you are speaking metaphorically, I have even more
questions. For example: What do you mean by "delusional" lies? Did you have any
idea that he was abusive before you married him? Is something else going on?
You need professional, in-person evaluation. That is my best advice.
Good luck,
Dr. Irene
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